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God gave humankind the gift of sex. But many couples don’t experience that kind of joy and fulfillment that God intended. If you’ve ever been frustrated with a lack of intimacy in your marriage, or if you just want to know more about how you can get the most out of your relationship, this book is for you.

Sex. In a world overwhelmingly obsessed with it, why is the church so silent about it? While our secular culture twists, perverts, cheapens, and idolizes sex, there are gaping holes in the church's guidance of young people. The result is generations of sexually illiterate people drowning in the repercussions of overwhelming sin struggles.

According to researchers, the vast majority--a whopping 75-98 percent--of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life. What we think about truly affects us both physically and emotionally. In fact, fear alone triggers more than 1,400 known physical and chemical responses in our bodies, activating more than thirty different hormones! Today our culture is undergoing an epidemic of toxic thoughts that, left unchecked, create ideal conditions for illnesses.

Supported by current scientific and medical research, Dr. Caroline Leaf gives readers a prescription for better health and wholeness through correct thinking patterns, declaring that we are not victims of our biology. She shares with readers the "switch" in our brains that enables us to live happier, healthier, more enjoyable lives where we achieve our goals, maintain our weight, and even become more intelligent. She shows us how to choose life, get our minds under control, and reap the benefits of a detoxed thought life.

Sex is powerful! Just saying the word “sex” can stir up all kinds of emotions inside people. Maybe it’s a positive emotion for you, or a hurtful, shameful, confusing one. It’s no wonder we humans struggle to understand its meaning and purpose. It can be difficult to talk about and even worse if we have experienced unwanted shame or grew up in a home where sex was a taboo topic.

Your heart matters more than anything else in all creation. The desires you had as a little girl and the longings you still feel as a woman – they are telling you of the life God created you to live. He offers to come now as the Hero of your story, to rescue your heart and release you to live as a fully alive and feminine woman.

What makes your woman tick? What is she really asking (but not actually saying)? Take the guesswork out of trying to please your wife or girlfriend and begin loving her in the way she needs. Easily. For Men Only is a straightforward map that will lead you straight into her heart.

The author’s research reveals the inner lives of men that will open women’s eyes to what these men in their life are really thinking and feeling. Men want to be understood, but they’re afraid to “freak out” the women they love by confessing what is happening inside their heads. This book will guide women in how to provide the loving support that modern men want and need.

When you buy something electronic, it always includes a user’s guide. Sometimes you read; sometimes you don’t. This book is a user’s guide for teen guys as they learn how to relate to girls. It covers almost everything you need to know in a way that’s easy to follow.

This teaching will equip you to be victorious in the combat zone of your own sex drive, overcome the power of peer pressure and confront distorted cultural values.

In this powerful teaching, Kris Vallotton answers these age-old questions: Why do I have a sex drive years before God wants me to have sex in marriage? Why should I wait to have sex? What do I do if I have already lost my virginity? This message will help you navigate the minefield of your sexuality and establish a solid foundation for your marriage.

Many couples put more planning into the wedding ceremony than they do for what comes after the wedding. Intelligent, deliberate preparation for a lifetime of sexual leisure is a worthy investment you won’t regret.

There is a crisis today among Christian men in the area of sexual sin. Wives, girlfriends, and mothers know this and want to help – they just don’t know how. Mary Farrar illuminates to women men’s innermost feelings, exposes the dichotomy in male/female communication, and shows that women can play an active role in this ongoing battle. There’s also advice for single women who want to relate to single men, and mothers of boys will find a strong chapter about the role they play in the healthy sexual development of their sons. With up-to-date psychological research, Reading Your Male is an indispensable resource, equipping a woman to fight wisely and effectively alongside her man in the ongoing struggle against sexual sin.

Want satisfying sex? All it takes is practice … and the right attitude! This book will expand and challenge your thinking, help you start your marriage off right, or go from humdrum to exciting if you’re already married.

If you want to give and receive love most effectively, you’ve got to learn to speak the right love language. Different people with different personalities express love in different ways. Step inside this book to learn about the five specific languages of love.

What speaks volumes to you may be meaningless to your spouse. But here, at last, is the key to understanding each others unique needs. Apply the right principles, learn the right language, and soon you’ll know the profound satisfaction and joy of being able to express your love – and feeling truly loved in return.

Clifford and Joyce Penner, clinical therapist and nurse have written a sensitive and forthright guide to understanding sexuality and how it fits into God’s design for marriage. With the latest information on sexuality and intimacy, this best-selling book is ideal whether you are newlyweds or have been married for many years.

In our pornified culture, pornography disrupts how men interact with women. Countless Christian men struggle with the addictive power of porn. And often our prayer and accountability groups are of limited help. By better understanding the biological realities of our sexual development, we can cultivate healthier sexual perspectives and interpersonal relationships. This book offers hope for freedom and transformation.

In this message, Jason will take you through lessons from his personal journey of Working Through Pain. He releases truths regarding mourning and how to look at pain productively, as opposed to living in a prison of denial. Jason unpacks powerful ways to identify and process through your pain, thus uprooting the lies that have kept you from walking in wholeness.

In this insightful and extremely helpful book, you will learn about a simple concept that can change your life: healthy boundaries. It’s the ability to mark off your life in such a way that you multiply your love for others and minimize the problems you face. This book comes highly recommended.

Through the healing steps in this Bible study you will be able to: receive and experience God’s forgiveness as well as forgive others and yourself, repair the wounds that you’ve been scarred with by past relationships, reverse the lies you’ve ingrained about sex and yourself with God’s truth, grieve what you’ve lost because of your past, and break the ungodly soul ties you’ve forged outside marriage, enabling you to to rebound in a present or future marriage.

“The quality of your life comes out of the quality of your dialogues and conversations. Here’s how to instantly uplift your crucial conversations.” Tools to learn: prepare for high-stakes situations, transform anger and hurt feelings into powerful dialogue, make it safe to talk about almost anything, be persuasive, not abrasive.

In this powerful, revelation-packed book, Danny Silk describes the significant paradigm shift in church life, government, and relationships that has created and sustained the revival culture at Bethel Church in Redding, California. Through many relevant and true-life stories, the church is revealed as a place of freedom, respect, empowerment, and healthy discipline (not punishment). Culture of Honor challenges the status quo of church leadership structure and presents a refreshing view of the five-fold ministry. Jesus acknowledged this important principle in Matthew 20:25-26:

With honest humor and raw self-revelation, bestselling author Donald Miller tells the story of growing up without a father and openly talks about the issues that befall the fatherless generation. Raw and candid, Miller moves from self-pity and brokenness to hope and strength, highlighting a path for millions who are floundering in an age without positive male role models. Speaking to both men and women who grew up without a father—whether that father was physically absent or just emotionally aloof—this story of longing and ultimate hope will be a source of strength. Single moms and those whose spouses grew up in fatherless homes will find new understanding of those they love as they travel along this literary journey.
This is a story of hope and promise. And if you let it, Donald Miller’s journey will be an informal guide to pulling the rotted beams out from our foundations and replacing them with something upon which we can build our lives.

With today’s rampant availability of Internet pornography, sexual addiction has become a national epidemic that affects up to 10 percent of Christians. As devastating as any drug habit, it brings heartbreak and despair to those it entangles. But there is help for men and women caught in sexual addiction’s downward spiral.Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction

Keeping your love on. It’s a hard thing to do. Sometimes it’s the hardest thing to do. But if you want to build healthy relationships with God and others, learning to keep your love on is non–negotiable

When it comes to seeking advice about relationships, marriage, and sex, we tend to look in all the wrong places. Everywhere we turn, we’re promised pleasure and happiness, but we’re left feeling hurt and empty. The world claims to have the answers, but maybe we’ve been asking the wrong questions all along. In our series Meant to Be, we’ll have open conversations and uncover the Bible’s best kept secrets about sex, marriage, and being single.

The pain endured from sexual betrayal can break your heart, but it does not need to break your life. Whether an isolated incident or a long-term pattern of addiction – you need to know you don’t have to live as a victim. Learn how to make wise and empowering decisions with the help of this book.

It may be hard to see emotional wounds as redeemable when they still hurt so deeply, this book will help you discover that God can not only heal your wounds, but He can also use the healing process to equip you for a whole, fulfilled and powerful life.

The Bible is well-known for its wisdom on spiritual concerns and righteous living. But did you know it can also guide you in matters of dating, courtship, and marriage? Wise and engaging, The Book of Romance digs deep into the Song of Solomon and what it says about the Bible’s most passionate lovers. As you learn about their relationship, you’ll discover how you, too, can experience the deep emotional, sexual, and spiritual satisfaction that God created to be enjoyed in marriage.

A book for Christian husbands and wives that blends the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and relational aspects of marriage with the sexual. Much more than a ‘how to’ book on better sex, this practical, detailed resource offers a vision of lovemaking that facilitates a deeper experience of intimacy on all planes of marriage.

ONCE UPON A TIME…

Marriage was forever. It was a covenant that knit one man and one woman together. This weaving made both stronger, nobler, and more vibrant expressions of who they were created to be. They were better together than either had been on their own.

The wedding ceremony was but a beginning. It was the gateway to build their happily ever after. Each choice and action was designed to construct the life their union represented. Husband and wife walked into the great unknown with hearts, hands, and voices intertwined to express the love of their Creator.

How did we lose touch with this profound love story? In The Story of Marriage, John and Lisa Bevere invite you to rediscover God’s original plan. Whether you’re married, single, or engaged, your story is a part of His.

Interactive book includes:

• Daily devotionals
• Questions for group discussion
• Tools for mapping your dream marriage
• Steps for writing your story well