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It's time that Christian men set the standard for risk, romance, wholeness, and pursuit. We believe men in this generation can do it. Date Well exists to empower single and dating men to thrive and win in their relationship with God, themselves, and their dating life. This unique program gives you access to incredible in-depth teachings, frequently updated hot topic videos, and a community of supportive like-minded men around the world.

Only very recently has our culture begun to realize and address the damaging effects of porn – how destructive it is to relationships and families, how it harms the brain, how it negatively impacts emotional well-being, and how it’s affected our society as a whole.

While it’s good that the level of awareness for this issue is increasing, those who struggle with porn are still left with trying to figure out how to get help in this difficult area.

That’s why Brendon Byrne wrote Take Back Your Life: Overcome Pornography While Building the Life You Want.

Brendon struggled with an addiction to porn for 12 years of his life and experienced many of its damaging effects first-hand, especially in his marriage. This led him to make an unwavering decision to begin the journey of finally get free from pornography.

With disarming transparency and vulnerability, Take Back Your Life will give you an in-depth look into Brendon’s journey of overcoming porn addiction where you will gain truths, insights and practical steps on how to step out of a lifestyle of porn and into a life full of adventure, freedom and purpose.

Rules for Romance That Can Help You Find the Love of Your Life Between singleness and marriage lies the journey of dating. Want to make your road as smooth as possible? Set and maintain healthy boundaries — boundaries that will help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control. If many of your dating experiences have been difficult, Boundaries in Dating could revolutionize the way you handle relationships. And even if you’re doing well, the insights you’ll gain from this much-needed audiobook can help you fine-tune or even completely readjust important areas of your dating life. Written by the authors of the bestselling book Boundaries, Boundaries in Dating is your road map to the kind of enjoyable, rewarding dating that can take you from weekends alone to a lifetime with the soul mate you’ve longed for. “Boundaries in Dating is the most helpful dating resource we have read in years. It is sure to become a classic. If you are looking for practical tools for finding the love of your life, you can’t afford to miss this outstanding book.” — Les and Leslie Parrott, Authors of Relationships and Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts “Boundaries in Dating will help you avoid the pitfalls of dating poorly and learn the secrets of dating well. Dating with good boundaries is a surefire way to find that relationship that lasts for the rest of your life.” — Gary Smalley, Author of Making Love Last Forever

Sex. In a world overwhelmingly obsessed with it, why is the church so silent about it? While our secular culture twists, perverts, cheapens, and idolizes sex, there are gaping holes in the church's guidance of young people. The result is generations of sexually illiterate people drowning in the repercussions of overwhelming sin struggles.

SEX. LOVE. VIRGINITY? In the dating game, the V-word has become as strange and complicated as the L-word, with purity as outdated as pay phones. What is an ex-athiest, post-porn addict, unorthodox Christian girl to do these days? How can she create boundaries without scaring off every available guy? Is purity even possible without being puritanical? In this candid, humorous account of the true-life trials of Christian dating, the author shares the wisdom she's gleaned in her quest for love in a modern world. She guides with grace and honesty through the often hush-hush topics of sex, porn, shame, female competition, misconceptions about purity, and those dreaded "waiting till marriage" conversations.Meet Carrie Lloyd.

According to researchers, the vast majority--a whopping 75-98 percent--of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life. What we think about truly affects us both physically and emotionally. In fact, fear alone triggers more than 1,400 known physical and chemical responses in our bodies, activating more than thirty different hormones! Today our culture is undergoing an epidemic of toxic thoughts that, left unchecked, create ideal conditions for illnesses.

Supported by current scientific and medical research, Dr. Caroline Leaf gives readers a prescription for better health and wholeness through correct thinking patterns, declaring that we are not victims of our biology. She shares with readers the "switch" in our brains that enables us to live happier, healthier, more enjoyable lives where we achieve our goals, maintain our weight, and even become more intelligent. She shows us how to choose life, get our minds under control, and reap the benefits of a detoxed thought life.

Late-night texts. Mixed signals. Dead-end relationships.
This doesn’t have to be your love life.

Welcome to dating in the digital world―where phone conversations followed by dinner and a movie have been replaced by last-minute texts, ambiguous relationships, and vague group hangouts.

While technology makes it faster and easier to connect than ever before, it has also created confusion . . . And heartbreak.

Ruthie and Michael Dean have heard the same story from thousands of women: the disappearing men, the cryptic messages, the disappointing relationships, and the false intimacy of on-screen connection.

In a no-holds-barred narrative style, the husband-and-wife team chronicles their dating mishaps, hilarious attempts to find love, and many mistakes―helping women understand just what men are thinking and how to attract Mr. Right.

Real Men Don’t Text offers game-changing perspectives, bringing a fresh approach to love, sex, and dating. You don’t need to spend one more night staring at a phone screen. It’s time to take back your love life!

”Boy Meets Girl” takes an honest and straightforward look at dating relationships and the challenges they bring. Beginning with our Creator, this series approaches guy-girl relationships from His perspective, helping lay the ground work for meaningful relationships now and a marriage that will last. Digging below the surface, ”Boy Meets Girl” uncovers potential dangers and offers practical help for anyone seeking a long term relationship that is all God intended it to be.

Your heart matters more than anything else in all creation. The desires you had as a little girl and the longings you still feel as a woman – they are telling you of the life God created you to live. He offers to come now as the Hero of your story, to rescue your heart and release you to live as a fully alive and feminine woman.

Christian couples come to a point where they must “Define their Relationship.” This awkward but pivotal conversation either pushes them apart or allows their relationship to develop into something greater. This course will help couples examine the exciting yet unknown path they will travel together and help them carefully consider the strength of their relationship.

What makes your woman tick? What is she really asking (but not actually saying)? Take the guesswork out of trying to please your wife or girlfriend and begin loving her in the way she needs. Easily. For Men Only is a straightforward map that will lead you straight into her heart.

The author’s research reveals the inner lives of men that will open women’s eyes to what these men in their life are really thinking and feeling. Men want to be understood, but they’re afraid to “freak out” the women they love by confessing what is happening inside their heads. This book will guide women in how to provide the loving support that modern men want and need.

When you buy something electronic, it always includes a user’s guide. Sometimes you read; sometimes you don’t. This book is a user’s guide for teen guys as they learn how to relate to girls. It covers almost everything you need to know in a way that’s easy to follow.

This teaching will equip you to be victorious in the combat zone of your own sex drive, overcome the power of peer pressure and confront distorted cultural values.

In this powerful teaching, Kris Vallotton answers these age-old questions: Why do I have a sex drive years before God wants me to have sex in marriage? Why should I wait to have sex? What do I do if I have already lost my virginity? This message will help you navigate the minefield of your sexuality and establish a solid foundation for your marriage.

Do you often leave dates wondering what in the world just happened? Everything leading up to the date seemed so perfect, but something just went horribly awry. Or maybe the date itself was good but something was missing. Have you ever looked back on your really bad dates to figure out what exactly went wrong, at what point it collapsed and why?

We’ve all had bad dates. We may have even caused them. Some have even stretched into undesirable relationships. Relationships are hard, hard to figure out and even harder to find. Uncover the value of who you truly are and the potential that God has purposed for your life.

Bad dates don’t have to be a way of life. Let God change you, and let Him lead you to healthy relationships that last.

There is a crisis today among Christian men in the area of sexual sin. Wives, girlfriends, and mothers know this and want to help – they just don’t know how. Mary Farrar illuminates to women men’s innermost feelings, exposes the dichotomy in male/female communication, and shows that women can play an active role in this ongoing battle. There’s also advice for single women who want to relate to single men, and mothers of boys will find a strong chapter about the role they play in the healthy sexual development of their sons. With up-to-date psychological research, Reading Your Male is an indispensable resource, equipping a woman to fight wisely and effectively alongside her man in the ongoing struggle against sexual sin.

If you want to give and receive love most effectively, you’ve got to learn to speak the right love language. Different people with different personalities express love in different ways. Step inside this book to learn about the five specific languages of love.

What speaks volumes to you may be meaningless to your spouse. But here, at last, is the key to understanding each others unique needs. Apply the right principles, learn the right language, and soon you’ll know the profound satisfaction and joy of being able to express your love – and feeling truly loved in return.

“Are you who the person you are looking for is looking for?” – Andy Stanley

Single? Looking for the “right person?” Thinking that if you met the “right person” everything would turn out “right?” Think again. In The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and land mines associated with dating in the twenty-first century. Best of all, he offers the most practical and uncensored advice you will ever hear on this topic. Not for the faint of heart, The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating challenges single Christ followers to step up and set a new standard for this generation! “If you don’t want a marriage like the majority of marriages,” says Stanley, “then stop dating like the majority of daters!”

In this message, Jason will take you through lessons from his personal journey of Working Through Pain. He releases truths regarding mourning and how to look at pain productively, as opposed to living in a prison of denial. Jason unpacks powerful ways to identify and process through your pain, thus uprooting the lies that have kept you from walking in wholeness.

In this insightful and extremely helpful book, you will learn about a simple concept that can change your life: healthy boundaries. It’s the ability to mark off your life in such a way that you multiply your love for others and minimize the problems you face. This book comes highly recommended.

Through the healing steps in this Bible study you will be able to: receive and experience God’s forgiveness as well as forgive others and yourself, repair the wounds that you’ve been scarred with by past relationships, reverse the lies you’ve ingrained about sex and yourself with God’s truth, grieve what you’ve lost because of your past, and break the ungodly soul ties you’ve forged outside marriage, enabling you to to rebound in a present or future marriage.

In this powerful, revelation-packed book, Danny Silk describes the significant paradigm shift in church life, government, and relationships that has created and sustained the revival culture at Bethel Church in Redding, California. Through many relevant and true-life stories, the church is revealed as a place of freedom, respect, empowerment, and healthy discipline (not punishment). Culture of Honor challenges the status quo of church leadership structure and presents a refreshing view of the five-fold ministry. Jesus acknowledged this important principle in Matthew 20:25-26:

With honest humor and raw self-revelation, bestselling author Donald Miller tells the story of growing up without a father and openly talks about the issues that befall the fatherless generation. Raw and candid, Miller moves from self-pity and brokenness to hope and strength, highlighting a path for millions who are floundering in an age without positive male role models. Speaking to both men and women who grew up without a father—whether that father was physically absent or just emotionally aloof—this story of longing and ultimate hope will be a source of strength. Single moms and those whose spouses grew up in fatherless homes will find new understanding of those they love as they travel along this literary journey.
This is a story of hope and promise. And if you let it, Donald Miller’s journey will be an informal guide to pulling the rotted beams out from our foundations and replacing them with something upon which we can build our lives.

Fight the New Drug exists to provide individuals the opportunity to make an informed decision regarding pornography by raising awareness on its harmful effects using only science, facts, and personal accounts.

Keeping your love on. It’s a hard thing to do. Sometimes it’s the hardest thing to do. But if you want to build healthy relationships with God and others, learning to keep your love on is non–negotiable

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It may be hard to see emotional wounds as redeemable when they still hurt so deeply, this book will help you discover that God can not only heal your wounds, but He can also use the healing process to equip you for a whole, fulfilled and powerful life.

An insightful, inspirational, amusing and honest guide to relationships for the modern single Christian woman. How does the single Christian woman maintain her relationships while staying true to herself? How can she thrive in a predominately secular culture and keep her faith in a world that doesn’t reflect her values? The Virgin Monologues teaches how to do healthy relationships, what to fight for and what to give up on. It gives healthy principles to understand before looking for a team mate. Endorsements: “It may be that this does not paint the whole picture of your single life, but guaranteed there will be plenty of shared experience, hurts, accidents and adventures within these pages. With refreshing honesty, courage and humour Carrie publicly has the conversation so many of us have had in private.

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Finding Truth in a Universe of Opinions

What is truth?

This has become the defining question of our time. But while everyone has an opinion, truth, it seems, is getting harder and harder to find. Perhaps that’s because we are searching for something when we should be looking for someone.

Truth has a name.

More ancient than time and more present than this moment, truth is not a river that changes with the cultural currents, but a rock—immovable, invincible, unshakeable—and the cornerstone of all we are and ever dream to be.

Theologically deep yet intimately accessible. Adamant will be an anchor for your soul in a raging sea of opinions, giving you a clear sense of direction in a wandering world.